Weekend Coffee Share – Mindfulness V/S Loco Guy

I was frozen in terror.

Last Wednesday night. There was a violent, crazy man harassing us, banging on our door, screaming, refusing to leave. I had just got off work, and was in the shower when it all started. Since there was other people in the house I figured that someone would open the door, and deal with it. My country brain, figured it was a neighbor or friend..(I had temporarily forgotten that I’m in Las Vegas now.) It was not a neighbor, or a friend. It was a stranger. He refused to say who he was. There was no identification on the big white truck parked sideways outside, blocking our driveway. He was getting more violent, and loud by the minute.

Can I get you some coffee? Or tea?

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We had to call the cops on him. If this would have been a few years ago that first sentence would have been true. Not now. (It was just too tempting to add some drama.) You see, my ex husband is a Marine. During rare occasions when we spent time in the same house, (that did not happen so often,) we had drill exercises. The exercises was about what to do if A happens, and what to not do if B happens..(I used to hate them. I think we covered a few hundred different scenarios. They were more like lectures, the way a bad teacher would teach a child something.)  Anyways, the number one thing he actually taught me, besides handling weapons (which I am very grateful for,) was to keep my cool in any given situation (which was very ironic. If you knew him, you would know.) The other night when the loco guy was banging on the door, I did not freeze. When I understood what was happening, I knew what to do without thinking. That felt good. The auto pilot worked. In this case the right thing to do was to lock myself in with the kids, in the safest room, where no gunfire (if there should be any,) could reach us (there never was any guns involved,) and with proper means of defense, and wait for the police to come and handle it (since we’re in a big city they are always close by.) I should probably thank my ex the next time I see him. Yes, I’ll definitely do that. No one was harmed in this incident. The loco guy was arrested.

Besides that little incident, that took up quiet a bit of time Wednesday evening, it’s been a beautiful, peaceful week.

This week have been more of the mindful kind. I’ve done a lot of meditating, and some yoga. I’m re-reading Eckhart Tolle’s The power of now. I am enjoying the read even more this time, than the last time around (probably ten years ago.) It’s an empowering book, if you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it. You don’t have to agree with everything, just read with an open mind.

I have experimented a little bit with my (newish) camera. I feel that I got off to a good start with that. I learned a couple new things.

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Unedited version of a rose in our backyard.

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Lightly edited version of the same photo. A little cropped, and the light slightly enhanced. I like my photos to look natural. I never add, or take things away. Enhancing the light, and cropping the photos to show the image the way I perceived it when I took it, is more my style. I want the viewer to see what captured my attention. To see what it was that made me feel good, stop a heart beat, or get the adrenaline rushing – depending on the picture.

I went to the gym three mornings, and walked 5 miles every day. I’ve been taking good care of myself, after the scare a few weeks ago. I sleep 7-8 hours every night, eat good, and feel strong.

It’s going to be 85 this weekend. A little crazy considering it’s the end of October. I have a couple wishes for the weekend; to spend time with my daughter, find a 4×4 truck, take some pictures, and do some hiking. There is going to be some baking on Sunday. I’m participating in a pumpkin carving contest on Monday, and I promised to bring cookies. I haven’t baked cookies in forever, that’ll be fun.

What do you wish for this weekend?

 

Love,

Ms Zen

 

Fall – A Time To Play

There is a time for everything. Even the good book says so. I think fall is a time to play. I so love this beautiful fall weather we have! It’s been 78-80 degrees almost every day. After a hot hot summer it’s a wonderful relief. My body appreciate this weather. Even the cold, chilly evenings (don’t laugh my northern friends. I mean chilly for here.. lol.)

Last Sunday I was sitting outside, relaxing by the pool for several hours. Something that would of given me a heat stroke a few weeks ago. I’m so enjoying this amazing fall weather.

I can tell that my dog enjoys it as well. She is more comfortable, eating better, and her coat looks better as well. Her coat didn’t really like swimming in the pool 20-30 times/day….(her coat was the only one having an objection.)

I am filled with gratitude for the life that I feel returning. The cooler weather sooths my soul. I can’t tell you enough, how wonderful it is. My viking blood can never really get used to the desert heat. That said, now, this time of the year, everything is perfect. It’s beautiful, the air is crisp. I’m inspired to get out, and stay out all day long. I’m itching to explore some more hiking trail. I have several that I’m hoping to explore within the next few weeks. (The only thing keeping me from doing so is the fact that I’m in between vehicles. I’m looking at trucks every day. So I will find one soon. The right one.)

I’m both eager to explore the trails for the sake of exploring new territory, and enjoy nature, but also because I want to experiment with my new camera. (If 3 months old is still new? It’s still new to me, since I don’t know it inside out yet.) I got a new bookshelf yesterday. It’s a short one, shaped like a cube, with four shelves within. Just perfect for the corner between my bedroom window, and the closet. I put my most precious, inspiring books there,  and placed my camera on top (safely away from little curious hands..) but still in the open, where I will see it all the time. I’m thinking that it’s going to both remind me, and inspire me to take more photos. Something I usually do every day, but because of the heavy work load lately, I have almost forgotten my love. I already used it several times. Picked it up, experimented with the settings, captured some moments here and there. I’m starting to get more and more excited about the camera, just like I knew I would be. I’ve also decided to order a big print of one of my favorite photos from Grand Canyon (I’m thinking of this one. Or, I might have to go back and capture a sunrise?) To remind me of more adventures, and how I refuel my batteries. Do you have a strategy to refuel your batteries this time of the year?

I hope your week is everything good you can imagine.

Love,

Ms Zen

(Ps. The photos in this post are simple photos taken with my old iPhone 4… I know, it is time for a new phone..that will be sometime after a 4×4 vehicle, and a telephoto zoom lens, unless it breaks before that. I’m not a material girl, I just want things to work, for their given purpose. The right tools, that will do the job, allowing me to focus on the important stuff. LOL.)

Weekend Coffee Share

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Monday

It is 6am, and I have already finished my morning coffee. There’s still plenty left in the pot, can I get you some? The truth is that I have my shoes on. I’m waiting for my ride. I’m on my way to the gym. For like the first time in ten years, literally. I’d say that I’m in good shape, from doing ranch chores, hiking, playing with kids, and riding horses. I also had some weights at home, when I lived in California, but I have not set my foot in a gym in probably more than ten years.

Have an awesome Monday!

Tuesday

In all the excitement over going to the gym, for the first time in ten years yesterday morning, I forgot to tell you a couple important things. (The gym was a lot of fun, and I went again this morning.) Like the fact that I sold my car on Sunday. Yes, the one I bought two months ago.. I wanted a fuel efficient, reliable vehicle to drive from northern California, to Las Vegas, when I moved. I sold my old truck, and bought this car. In my head it was going to be convenient to have a car in the city, instead of a truck. However, I don’t really drive around in the city. I miss being able to take the backroads, and go play in the mountains. Therefor I sold the car, and I’m going to start looking for a 4×4. I’ll probably try to find a good deal on a used truck.

I also forgot to tell you that I had a conversation with the family I work for, about working less hours. It just doesn’t make sense for me to work 60-70 (or more) hours/week. Starting November I will only work 40 hours/week. Very happy about that! …and I’ve started to look into ways of working towards my PhD via an online University. I found out that I need to get a Masters first… I’m totally clueless when it comes to various degrees. I’ve looked at a few different universities. I would like to study developmental psychology with a focus towards younger children, which is my area of expertise.

I love school, always have, and I want to learn more. I have a BA in Early Childhood Education. I believe that part of my mission in life, is to encourage young children, and gently guide them while they are discovering their world. To guide them towards asking the right questions, and learning how to look for those answers, in our ever changing world. In a fun playful. I would love to add more knowledge about the psychological side. I’m hoping to find a curriculum that allows me to study at home for the most part, at my own pace, while I am working. Some universities required an in depth English test for students, with another native tongue than English. I took one of those tests, that had one reading part, and one listening part. After the test your score put you in one of six categories, from beginner (lowest level) to proficient (highest level of understanding.) Honestly, I was clueless as of which category I would land in. I did end up with a score that put me in the highest category. That felt good. I understand that I would have to work a little harder than native speakers, but I’m up for that challenge, when I find the right program. I’m not going to rush this. I’ll just follow my intuition. Like I always do.

Alright, time to hit the shower before the work day begin. I really enjoy this new thing of going to the gym in the mornings. It feels great! Grab another cup of coffee if you like, and have an awesome day!

Thursday

Yes, I missed writing yesterday, morning, and it’s already Thursday! I had a wonderful day yesterday. I slept in (to about 6ish..lol,) did not go to the gym. I am going to the gym today though, in a few minutes. Which I’m pretty pleased with, since it’s the third time this week.

I actually got off work early yesterday. The little angels I’m taking care of had a doctor’s appointment in the afternoon. I started to look at trucks. Had a nice dinner at a restaurant, and spent the evening watching scary ghost adventures on TV. It’s almost Halloween…

Friday

It is Friday, and almost 7am. It’s going to be an awesome day today, right? Today I’m going to do my exercise outdoors, but I did go to the gym yesterday morning. It was the third time this week, and it feels fabulous.

Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. Three times is enemy action. 
– Ian Fleming

I’ve been trying out some new contacts this week as well, and they are so much better than the ones I had before. All in all, this week have been treating me really good so far. How is your week?

I’m hoping to see my daughter this weekend, read some good books (I have several new books waiting for me to devour them,) and definitely going to look at some trucks this weekend. I’m hoping to do some photography as well. Before my move to Vegas I upgraded to a full frame camera, but I have barely used it. I’m very excited to be working a little less from now on, because working so much definitely affected my photography. It feels like a piece of my soul is missing there. Do you know what I mean? I’m very excited about this cooler weather, and all the opportunities it brings (spending more time outdoors without risking a heat stroke..lol.)

Weekend Coffee Share is a time for us to take a break out of our lives and enjoy some time catching up with friends (old and new)!
Grab a cup of coffee and share with us! What’s been going on in your life? What are your weekend plans? Is there a topic you’ve just been ruminating on that you want to talk about?

 Have a wonderful, fabulous, fantastic weekend! Relaxing if you need it 😊

 

Love,

Ms Zen