Weekend Coffee Share – Week 1

The city of Falun, (Sweden,) viewed from Falu Copper mine

Good morning to you this beautiful Saturday morning! It is the second Saturday of 2021, but the first week of the year, (since last Saturday technically belonged to week 53 of 2020.) How are you doing? This week we have a new gracious host for the Weekend Coffee Share – Natalie The Explorer. Can I get you some coffee? Or tea? How are things in your corner of the world? 

I have really enjoyed hearing the laughter of my children having a good time around our new place this holiday season (this is my last week of vacation.) All of us love it here! That makes me very happy. The two of them (the kiddos) like to relax and play in the morning, so they play when I go for a walk. Then I get home and make lunch. It’s a nice routine for days off, starting each day with a walk around one of the closest lakes….followed by a lot of cooking, it feels like I cook a lot with two growing kids in the house. I really want them to eat nutritious, good food, and when you make everything from scratch that takes some time. During the school/work days we all eat a hot meal for lunch at school/work, and then I cook dinner when I get home. On days off I cook two meals/day and then there is snacks in between. I try to make the snacks healthy and mostly fruit or full grain bread, but in the weekends/holidays we sometimes make exceptions and I bake a fruit cobbler, or some pastry. 

After enjoying lunch we do something outside together. There’s been sledding and walks in beautiful snow-covered landscapes. Most of the time it’s all three of us, and sometimes only me and my youngest, if the oldest have other plans. Despite the craziness of the world, this holidays season have been filled with love and laughter. I know these are just everyday things, and nothing super exciting, but it is life right now, and I am content. 

My daughter got two late Christmas gifts in the mail this week.
One was a gift box with four chapter books, we almost finished the first one!
The other gift was a crochet set with different characters, and how to make them, all the materials included in the gift.

One day this week I took a longer walk, from my house up to Falu Copper Mine, where I (safely, outside, with Corona distance,) met a colleague of mine, and we walked around the mine together, stopping at a vista point where you can see the whole town (the first photo was taken at that vista point,) where we enjoyed a picnic lunch. (We each brought our own lunch.) It was great seeing my colleague, catching up a little before I go back to work on Monday. 

Falu Copper Mine

Yesterday I talked to my children about finances, and how to make a budget. My youngest get a weekly allowance, and my oldest a monthly allowance. We talked about what I expect from them, and what they can expect from me. I am trying to teach them about the value of money, and different ways to think about money, giving them some real life examples. I talked to my oldest about investing in stocks, and saving up for things that he might want in the future. Many young adults move to their own place at age 18 in Sweden, he will be 16 in a few months.

My daughter that is 8 is expected to have a good attitude at all times, get up/go to bed when asked, do her best in school, do all her homework on time, and keep her room tidy. She only gets a small weekly allowance (with a chance of a monthly bonus for extra efforts,) that she can spend as she likes, and is not expected to pay for any of her personal expenses. 

I expect more from my son that is older, and responsible for a lot more money, and also have more freedom when it comes to deciding over his own time. 

My son needs to:

Be on time to every lesson in school (not as simple as it sounds as they are all in different places.)

Always do his best in school, this is his last year of the mandatory school in Sweden (almost everyone continue to school for at least 3 years, many for 6-7 years, and he will too.) 

Do all his homework on time. 

Make his bed every day, and keep his room and personal bathroom tidy.

Be home on time in the weekends.

He has 1-2 times a month when he picks his little sister up and watch her for two hours (those 1-2 times/month when I work late.)

My son is expected to purchase his own clothes and pay for hobbies/travel etc. 

I added that he can not smoke as long as he lives at home, and that he can not drink any alcohol before legal age (18 in Sweden.)

By the end of our talk I asked them both to sign individual contracts (including all of the above,) that I’ve written before hand. That they agree to do this in order to get their allowance. I think signing a contract, like in real life, make them take their responsibilities more seriously. We will follow up on how things goes in a casual way during a more festive family dinner every weekend. I want to keep things fun, and make them see possibilities, and watch them grow as they make their individual choices. I believe it is very important to teach children about money, how to make and keep a budget, how to make plans and be able to achieve them. They are both good kids, and I desperately want them to grow up to be responsible adults, happy knowing that they have choices. In a way being in some control of your life have to do with choosing happiness. There are so many areas that we can not control in any way, so to make good choices when it is possible to make a choice feels important. Or what do you think? Feel free to take a refill on your beverage and tell me about it! 

Love,

Maria

Published by Sagittarius Viking

It’s all about experiences, and the healing power of nature. Life is about choosing happiness. I entered the magic world of photography when I was five years old. My gypsy soul have taken me to many different countries, and definitely taught me to be more humble. I believe that you are what you eat, body and soul. I enjoy growing my own food, and spending time outdoors. Above everything else is my daughter. A Sagittarius loves to travel, have an open mind and, and a philosophical view. It motivates them to wander around the world in search of the meaning of life. Sagittarius is extrovert, optimistic and enthusiastic, and likes changes. A lot of that perfectly describes me. The fact that my ancestors, on both parents sides, were vikings, doesn’t exactly lessen my desire to explore. Maybe a slightly more mindful exploring, compared to the average viking. My blog, and my art prints is a results of my (inner and outer) explorations. Love, Maria

45 thoughts on “Weekend Coffee Share – Week 1

  1. Det blir bara svårare och svårare att uppfostra och få barn och ungdomar att utvecklas till att klara det hårda klimatet som finns utanför hemmets trygga vrå. Jag tror du gör ett bra jobb. Mina barn är vuxna nu och har klarat sig bra, men det var mycket lättare att skydda barn från det som är ont då till skillnad från nu och ändå tyckte jag det var svårt då. Jag är glad att jag inte är ung i dagens samhälle.
    Kram.

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    1. Tack för din uppmuntrande kommentar. ❤ Så mycket har ändrats sen jag själv växte upp. Jag inser att min lillasyster och jag hade mycket frihet, när vi var yngre än min dotter är. Jag skulle aldrig drömma om att släppa iväg henne till elljusspåret för att åka skidor själv, och säga att 10km är OK, men vill ni åka 30 km spåret måste ni säga till först…(min mammas ord.)
      Hoppas helgerna varit bra ❤

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  2. Hi Maria, Nice photos of your city and the copper mine. I learned that the Falu Copper Mine is a UNESCO Heritage site. I’d be interested in visiting it one day.

    It’s so great that you’re setting boundaries and teaching your children about finances. Budgeting and managing our own finances is an important life skills to have.

    Thank you for joining me at my debut Weekend Coffee Share. I hope you have a fun weekend and enjoy meeting new blogger friends.

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    1. Thank you so much Natalie! Yes Falu Copper Mine, and surrounding area is an UNESCO Heritage site. It is very interesting to walk around the mine, and look at the workers housing (some of them still in use.) The old houses are in great shape due to the red color, with copper in it, that preserve the timber. You can purchase guided tours down to the inside of the mine, I am planning to do that when Covid is only a bad memory.
      Thank you for being our new host. I usually write my post on Saturday, or sometimes Friday, and read other bloggers coffee shares on Sunday. It’s part of my weekend fun 🙂 Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

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  3. Sounds like a very good week. i really like the first photo where you can see the ski jump in the background. It is very important to teach kids about values and money. Interesting that you used a contract, but I’m sure it works very well. I hope your first week back to work goes well!

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    1. Thank you! It is a good week 🙂 The ski jumps is a significant trademark for our town, you can see them standing anywhere in town.
      I do believe that it is important to implement education about values to your children, all types of values..
      Have a great rest of your weekend, and a fabulous new week 🙂

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  4. The laughter in the house is something that we enjoy at our house too! There is something special about that time off that seems to spawn it.
    I am so glad we were able to have a few minutes and have coffee today.

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  5. Hi Maria
    Had no idea you had an older son too
    And the plan you have in place sounds like it lets them be human and also gives the structure and needs helps!
    Oh and I bet many folks can get a few tips here

    One thing to add is we sometimes had a day where we sat the kids down and gave verbal affirmations
    It was putting business aside and letting them know what was working and what they were doing right
    And little things we loved about them
    And oh wow did it infuse them with joy and strengths NDA served as a positive Reinforcement for other things that were less fun!

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    1. Thank you! So very important to lift all the good, amazing things they do! It has to be a handful being young in these days..so much to think about. Thank you so much for your positive comment. I hope the holiday season have been filled with love in your house.

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  6. We have not been able to use our sled hill in a bit because we need a nice healthy snowfall. Our hill is currently an ice hill. So, I am a bit jealous in the happiest possible way, haha.

    Teaching the children about money, budget and savings is so important. My boys do chores and get a small allowance that they put into the piggy banks. I do sometimes worry if we are conveying the importance of responsible spending, saving and financial responsibilities. I had a little glimpse that we might be in the last few weeks because my older son has asked to open a bank account for his piggy bank savings and he used a small amount of his piggy bank savings to secretly purchase us elastic bracelets for Christmas. He was so proud of himself!

    Anyway, great coffee share Maria. Hope you have a lovely weekend.

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    1. I hope you get your snow soon. It has been snowing for a few days here, before that it was only ice here as well.

      It sounds like you have a great plan with your children, teaching them about finances, and that they are well on their way. It’s those little things that makes us parents so proud and happy 🙂
      I had a piggy bank as a kid, and my daughter had one in the US, but in Sweden people don’t use cash anymore, hardly at all, many places don’t accept them. So my kids get their money on accounts online.

      I hope you are enjoying the weekend! I am enjoying every minute. Savouring the last blast of freedom. LOL.

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  7. Åh, Falu koppargruva! Det är så fint, men ganska speciellt, där. Intressant historia också. Jag bodde i Falun ett år och älskade att promenera omkring där, särskilt i området kring gruvan.

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    1. Ja visst är det 🙂 Jag har bott i Falun dryga året nu, kommer ju från Mora ursprungligen och det är ju inte långt bort, men jag har verkligen uppskattat att utforska Falun det här senaste året. Det finns så mycket vackert att se, både i stan och utanför.

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  8. Sounds like good parenting, teaching them to budget and prepare for the real world. So many kids are clueless, making poor choices due to lack of foresight. I remember trying to prepare my boys while they were still at home, the transition from dependence to independence takes time. Of course, their path will take them their own way, and mistakes will be learning opportunities. We do the best we can!
    Enjoy your last week of vacation. Have you been skiing yet?

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    1. Thank you, we can only do our best, and then let their brilliant minds do the rest 😉
      I have been enjoying this week immensely, I’m going back to work tomorrow, and I feel ready for that, even though I have not been skiing yet (I’ll probably do that at work tomorrow.) I hope you are enjoying a beautiful weekend ❤

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  9. I like the structure for the kids. Quite similar to how I (and six younger siblings) was raised. There was not enough money, however, to take clothing purchases out of our allowance; Mother had a succession of sewing machines and related equipment and in addition to sewing/tailoring our clothes, she made our quilts and upholstered furniture. Since music lessons and musical instruments were also mandatory, those expenses came out of the household budget. (My folks were like, “As long as you live under this roof, you will…”.) Is good to have a structure, to know where the boundaries and benefits are, growing up.

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    1. I believe you are right, most children benefit from a balance of structure and freedom. My mother made a lot of our clothes growing up as well, the rest was clothes that moms friends kids outgrown. I like that bartering system. I don’t mind using second hand clothing at all, as long as they are a good fit and of good quality. Both me and my daughter have capsule closets and they are very easy to manage.
      I hope you are enjoying a beautiful weekend ❤

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  10. Now I know what you mean by that little cottage being close to the copper mine, such a stunning little town though. Great you had a chance to catch up with your work friend. I did a contract with my kids when they were younger too. Its so important & I think as a single parent it helps with managing the household no matter how big or small. You are such a fantastic Mum & your treasures are so blessed to have you. Have a fantastic week back at work.

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  11. Hi Maria. I think this is brilliant. I especially like the idea of talking to your kids about saving and investing. I did not even begin to think much about the investment part until my early 20s and have found it to be very useful. I wish my folks had talked to me about it. In fact, pretty much from the day they were born my children had trustee investment accounts in their names. We put money aside for them and encouraged them to both add money themselves when they started making it and to pay attention to it. My daughter had some substantial college loans and used much of her money to pay off much of what she owed. She was so thankful for that help. Anyway, good for you mom. Your kids will thank you for years to come.

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    1. Thank you! No-one ever talked to me about investing anything, until I by pure chance asked for a personal meeting with a banker when I was 19. I was not planning on asking for a meeting with a banker when I walked into the bank, I was just going to do some simple transaction, and I hear myself ask for “financial advice”. I have no idea why I all of a sudden asked for that, but I am glad I did, and that they took the time to talk to a 19 year old. I grew up poor, and I’ve never had a wish to be rich, just to be able to feel good and have everything I need. Thank you for sharing how you helped your kids. College/University is free in Sweden, and I certainly hope that both my children will take advantage of that. I just need to encourage them to do their best in school so that their grades are good enough for the schools they decide to attend.
      I hope your weekend have been good, despite the crazy week you’ve had in the US. I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw the Capitol Hill incident on TV.

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  12. Thank you for the yummy coffee. It’s been a crazy week for me filling in earlier on day shift at work. You are so amazing with your children and love all that you do for them to prepare them for their future! I Love your town so much and those ski jumps in the background are amazing! Do you ski? It’s not for me, but it’s fun to watch the Olympics! I hope you have a wonderful weekend and week ahead! 🤠❤️

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    1. My pleasure! Thank you do much for your kindness. I imagine you have an extra interest in Sweden, due to your ancestry 🙂 I promise to take good care of you when you for a visit! I do enjoy cross-country skiing, and snowboarding. I would never, ever try those ski jumps!
      I pray that your next week will be less crazy my friend ❤

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      1. I can’t wait to visit, and feel comfortable I’ll be in good hands. I think it will be a girls trip with my daughter some day! Your the sweetest and yes, I would rather do cross country skiing! I’m afraid of heights! Haha! I hope you get more snow this winter too enjoy! 😀

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  13. I applaud your approach with your two children. That is very similar to how I had or two kids take financial responsibility. They are both adults in their 30s now. Also we used to schedule family meetings and our two could raise any issues they wanted to discuss or problems they were having with any of the house rules .It worked well. Our daughter has done the same with her son and two step daughters.

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    1. Thank you! My mom did similar with me and my sister when we were really young, and it stuck. I believe in an open climate, where questions are allowed, as long as they are asked in a respectful way. It’s wonderful to hear about successful families and their road to success. Thank you! I hope you had a great week, and a fabulous weekend 🙂

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  14. You are a good, responsible Mom, Maria. I wish more parents were. I love the photos. How awesome would it be to actually visit such a mine…even go inside the depths… Hubby and I do like to visit the caves and caverns when we can. Schools here are still closed due to Covid/Corona Virus, so everyone is doing online classes. It’s really brought to the forefront the economic disparities in our communities between those that can afford internet and those that cannot. We cannot, so we have to rely on public wifi…which is scarce as most businesses and libraries are still closed. Even so, as it is, I’ve found it…hmm, can’t really find the right word. For me, it’s like being given a ‘gift’ of sorts. I’m finding that the “simple” life that I much prefer to live (with limited technology) is actually easier to do without the “fancy” things. I’ve been spending more time in the kitchen, too. Hubby says he’s “lovin’ it” as I cook more and we get drive-thru less. Also, I’ve actually found that I have much more time to pursue sewing, crafting,etc. I’ve taken to scheduling certain crafts on certain days to break up the monotony… not that there is any monotony with all the household chores and such. I found myself in tears this week when I found the antique mart actually open… that’s how it’s been here. Hope you have a great week, Maria. Love those darling children, too. Shalom, Bear

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    1. Thank you so much Bear. Your kind words are heartwarming. I too love the simple life. I’ve realised that at this point of my life I need to live in town, near schools etc. When my children are older I see myself in a cottage in the countryside or on the mountain, likely without internet. I’ve lived rural before, and I’m OK with using public Wifi at libraries, coffee shops etc, I’ve done it, and I’ll do it again. You sound happier this week, and it makes me happy to hear that you have simple pleasures that you enjoy in your life. ❤

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  15. You had a great, last week of vacation, Maria. Sounds like your kids are well in hand with your expectations and will thrive under your caring direction. Your trip to the mine looks fun and it must have been fun to visit with a friend. Enjoy your coming work week and thanks for the cuppa!

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  16. When I was in elementary school and into middle school I would get a weekly allowance. Of course that would be under the condition I did my homework, cleaned my room, and behaved through the week. My parents knew my hardest subject was math. They would give me a bonus on my allowance if I got an “A” on my math test. Surprisingly that was not frequent even if I studied harder.

    Anyways I do feel an allowance resulted in better financial planning later on. I learned how to save money and have a savings goal. My parents stopped giving me an allowance when I was in 7th grade because I was seeking odd jobs (i.e. babysitting, dog sitting, tutoring) around the neighborhood to make more money. I guess I had bigger saving goals.

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  17. Atta girl, great mom-ing/parenting. I totally agree with the way you are raising your children to be responsible, contributing members of their household now and community/world down the road. I believe in giving children money/allowance, too. We don’t go to work just for the sheer joy of working and they probably won’t clean their rooms for the joy of that chore!

    Write your parenting book, girl!!

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