Weekend Coffee Share

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Would you like some coffee? Or perhaps tea? The coffee is made, and I will have the tea kettle going in not time, if you’d rather have tea. There’s plenty of teas to choose from; black, red, green, and white ones. I’m on my second cup of coffee. It’s a dark roast, and boldly brewed. Strong, just like a like it.

How was your week? Mine was good. We’ve had strong winds here this week. Strong like trying to move my truck sideways on the freeway. My daughter and I have indulged in different school projects; such as a research project about Australia, Valentine’s Day history, rhyme words, remarkable Queens throughout history, what it takes to become a participant in the olympics, and how to research topics of interest on the internet etc. School wise, it’s been a great week!

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Ghost (my horse) is doing fantastic. On the windiest days I’ve adjusted the training, taking that into consideration. I have worked with him twice a day, every day, as usual. I only work him 15-30 min at the time. If we just play it can be slightly longer. I believe in consistency, and short, creative, session. He seem to thrive on routine. A lot of people around our neck of the woods are unfortunate to have the flu, making the indoor riding arena available, more than ever before. We’ve built obstacle courses there, and played with a big yoga ball, perfect for windy days. (You can see this weeks photos, and a short video of Ghost, if you head over to Instagram.) Yesterday it wasn’t quiet as windy as the other days, and I decided to work outdoors, in the round-pen. Since I’ve only had Ghost for a little more than a month, I’ve spent a lot of time working on gaining his trust. It’s true that I have asked him to do things, but more in a getting to know you kind of way. I feel that he trusts me fairly well now, naturally I will keep working on our relationship, but I’m upping the game a little, asking him to face some of his fears. It’s only by stepping out of our comfort zone that we can truly grow. Ghost is a sensitive horse, a very sensitive horse in some ways. He is intelligent, and it is possible to connect to his thinking side, of the brain. Did you know that horses have a thinking side, and a reactive side of the brain? On top of that you have to teach a horse everything from both sides, it’s not enough hat he knows that a plastic bag won’t eat him on the left side of the body, you’ll need to make sure he knows that it won’t eat him on the right side either. With Ghost it is easy to connect to the thinking side of the brain, but the reactive side is still very close. Especially with everything that involves ropes. I can hang over his back, and put my leg over his back, but if a rope touches his back, he is at the other side of the arena, or as far away as he can get, in the blink of an eye. I’ve been working successfully with silk gloves around it, but now when he trusts me a little more, I ask a little more of him. I’m being very carefully to not push too much, because he is so sensitive, but it is necessary that I help him overcome this fear. It can take as long time as it need to take, but I need to help him get through this. Before I do, he’s not going to be able to become a safe riding horse. We did have some major breakthroughs in the matter yesterday, but I am expecting this to take some time. Surely Ghost can have opinions about things, like where he wants to go when we are out for a walk etc, but when it comes to ropes, it’s not that, he is afraid. He’s been through something, at some point. Maybe someone have roped him when he was very young? Even though that doesn’t match the story I was told. Anyways, we will get through this. He is very trusting, and tries, even when he is scared. There was a lot of licking and chewing yesterday. He is definitely thinking, trying his very best. I purposely waited to deal with this, until I knew that he would come to me for reassurance, which he constantly did.

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I’m going to work a little more on this, and then I’m planning on spending lots of time long reining him. Driving him on the ground, with long reins, (sort of if I would have a cart, but without a cart. LOL.) That way he’ll have plenty of time getting used to ropes/lines on his body, before I start riding him. He will also build more muscles, and learn to be soft and supple, flex/bend, and steer easily. All of those things will highly benefit him (and me,) when I do start riding. I’ve also decided that I am not going to use the beautiful, heavy duty, F.Vela saddle I got last week for him. It weighs at least 55lbs, and I’m not sure it would be very comfortable for him. I might try to trade it for a more light weight endurance saddle. We’ll see. Plenty of time to think about that. Spring is just around the corner, and I am definitely going to take advantage of the warmer days, that soon will turn into hot days. Introducing new things to a relaxed horse by the end of a hot day, is something completely different, compared to introducing something new to a fresh horse, on a cold, windy day. If you’re not a horse person, I apologize for all this talk about horses. Can you tell that it’s something that I am passionate about? When I learned to read I read everything there was to read about horses, at the three libraries closest to where I lived (I was 5 years old,) and I mean everything. Growing up, and later having horses of my own, I still enjoy learning more about these fantastic animals. In the end it’s definitely the horses themselves that teach me the most.

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Tell me more about your week! Are you planning to have a garden this year? If so, please tell me about it! I’m not sure about my garden yet. It’s a complicate thing. I have access to 3 acres, that I can do anything I want with. I used to live close by, but I don’t anymore. I’m not sure what I am going to do about that. I love gardening, and I really do want to have a garden. In the heat we have here you need to water it twice a day, early in the morning, and late in the evening. The rest of the day is scorching hot. I would have to drag my daughter out of bed at 4am every morning. I just can’t do that. When you don’t live nearby it’s just not practical. On the other hand, there’s so much that you can do with 3 acres of excellent soil. I’ve been thinking a lot about that this week.

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Today we went on a great hike up at Mt. Shasta. The photos in today’s post are from that hike. This post is a part of the #WeekendCoffeeShare. Thank you for having coffee with me! I really enjoyed your company! Please come back soon.


Ms Zen

Published by Sagittarius Viking

It’s all about experiences, and the healing power of nature. Life is about choosing happiness. I entered the magic world of photography when I was five years old. My gypsy soul have taken me to many different countries, and definitely taught me to be more humble. I believe that you are what you eat, body and soul. I enjoy growing my own food, and spending time outdoors. A Sagittarius loves to travel, have an open mind and, and a philosophical view. It motivates them to wander around the world in search of the meaning of life. Sagittarius is extrovert, optimistic and enthusiastic, and likes changes. A lot of that perfectly describes me. The fact that my ancestors, on both parents sides, were vikings, doesn’t exactly lessen my desire to explore. Maybe a slightly more mindful exploring, compared to the average viking. My blog, and my art prints is a results of my (inner and outer) explorations. Love, Maria

14 thoughts on “Weekend Coffee Share

  1. Dear Ms. Zen,

    Thank you very much for this beautiful post. Yes, we plan to have some garden this year, but unfortunately on our balcony. it will be as always a small garden full with flower pots. I noticed that they started already to sell seeds in a local supermarkets,…but it’s too early. I will add some more balcony plants this spring, for example try some Lavender seeds…or similar. Here, we have a continental climate weather conditions but still ….never know until you try. Enjoy your Sunday and next week,…

    My best regards,


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  2. Thank you so much Amela! A balcony garden sounds wonderful to me. There’s so many beautiful things that you can do with a balcony garden. I’ve watched some incredible videos on Youtube of peoples balcony gardens. Lavender is a favorite of mine. The beautiful purple, and the amazing scent. I also love the fact that they come back time after time gain, even if they look liked they’ve died! How exciting! Thank you for your kind comment. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!


  3. Thank you for the coffee, the beautiful images of Gretchen and the great updates on Ghost! Being so far away from your garden makes it harder to manage without any help – perhaps someone can help you in return for using a corner to grow their own things? 😉🥕🌽🥑🍅

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    1. Thank you! Yes, it does make it a little complicated with the garden. I’ve been thinking about a drip system, on a timer, watering during the night. It would kill the plants to be watered during hours when most people are up. It’s so extremely hot here, up to 115F. I’m happy you enjoyed our coffee. I enjoyed our conversation 🙂

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  4. Maybe you can grow a xerophytic (low water) garden? Herbs, esp. silvery-leaved ones, like lavender, stachys, yarrow and santolina, are drought and heat tolerant. Sedums and succulents are good, too. But I guess you are thinking of vegetables… Maybe tubs or raised beds near your current house?
    Beautiful shots of Mt. Shasta and Gretchen – nice!

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    1. Thank you for your ideas, they are good. I did think in those lines last year, sort of. I planted several fig and pomegranate trees in the garden area. They are extremely drought tolerant. I do enjoy growing vegetables a lot. I might make some raised beds. Going to think a little more about that. I enjoyed having coffee with you 🙂


  5. You are doing a lot of work with Ghost. I am not a horse person but I would love to see some pictures of him. Horses are beautiful animals – though it is a little scary for me to get up on one 🙂

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  6. Hi Ms Zen,
    LOved reading about your horse adventures again this week. I’ve been watching a lot of the Winter Olympics.
    Our backyard is a gardening nightmare. It hasn’t been raining and the backyard’s turned into a sandpit. We don’t live far from the beach and soil quality is very poor. Of course, having three dogs use it as a sandpit doesn’t help. It’s like a moonscape.
    However, ever the optimist, it’s pouring tonight and I can’t but hope that a steady downpour might just be enough to kickstart it.
    Hope you have a great week!
    xx Rowena

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    1. Hi Rowena,

      I hope your weekend was relaxing, and fun! Thank you for sharing my horsey adventures with me. It does help me to write down my thoughts, and goals. In that way the #WeekendCoffeeShares is almost like a diary.

      Do you have a big backyard? I bet your dogs enjoy the sand. I know mine would ! We went to a waterfall last night. The water below it was freezing, but she jumped in anyways. She don’t seem to mind at all.

      Best of luck with your garden, and have a fantastic new week!

      Ms Zen


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